Dr. Karen Hill Scott
Today’s topic was brought up by a parent whose 3 year old son just did not want to poop in the potty. She’s not alone. There were over 200,000 references to fear of pooping in the potty on Google. I guess that should give us some comfort about whether a child is troubled or simply obstinate because he or she wants to hold on to the poop. It’s a world-wide issue.
I might as well tell you up front that there is no single solution, but you can envision relief ahead. If you provide positive support for using the potty and don’t resort to meanness, screaming in frustration, or pay for poop tactics, most toddlers will shed their pull-ups, put on the underpants, and use the potty like the rest of us by the time they’re 4 years old. (more…)
We all want to know how our baby is progressing and fortunately, most of us have the benefit and the burden of tons of information available in print, online, or from family and friends. Even if you are fairly confident about your baby’s progress, and the pediatrician says “your baby is fine,” doubt and uncertainty can be introduced by those closest to you who over-share or boast incessantly about “all things related to their baby.”
Without fail, something new and exciting does happen almost every week when you have an infant. (more…)
Most of us with one or more little ones under the age of two take certain things for granted. We believe in the innocence of infants. While our babies are fully capable of registering discomfort, anger, or frustration, we certainly don’t believe that our little ones are actually capable of being mean. (more…)
If you are a mom with a new baby, you may soon be lamenting that your personal “vacation party days” are over–probably for good. Your future vacations are going to be primarily dedicated to special family time. As my oldest daughter once said to me, when I informed her that Daddy and I were going away alone for three days, “There can be no vacation without your children.” Welcome to your child’s world view. (more…)
Unfortunately, the only people who get the endorsement of “like” and “trust” are already very close to you. The anxiety we feel when we hire an unknown person is because you’re leaving your child with someone you won’t get to know until after they’ve started working.
So what do you do if you determine a nanny is your best solution for child care? (more…)
Have you ever felt so entranced by your baby that you lose track of yourself as a grown-up? I don’t mean in the chronological sense of your age but in the sense of your role. Are you Mommy, the cuddler-nurturer, at one with your infant? Or are you Mommy the leader, an example for all the little ones who are going to grow up in your home? Sometimes we need a wake-up call to merge the two into the one person our children call “Mom.” (Not to mention regaining the identity of co-producer with the other adult member of the family).
My mother gave me my wake-up call at 3:00 am, one Tuesday morning, when she walked into my kitchen where I was more or less pretending to enjoy playing goo-goo-gah-gah with a baby who obviously thought it was 3:00 in the afternoon. (more…)