Guest Blogger Spotlight: My Son’s First Day in Day Care by Find My Car Seat
We’re excited to have Find My Car Seat as this month’s Baby Einstein guest blogger! This month, she discusses her decision to return to work, a step that can be extremely difficult for new parents. Read on to hear about how she handled the separation anxiety with her little one when he went to day care for the first time.
After my first day back to work, I walked into the daycare room to pick up my son, then 16 months old. He saw me and smiled like I never saw him smile before. He reached his arms out to me, and as I picked him up he threw his arms around my head and hugged me tighter than I had ever been hugged before. This was the first time that he had ever hugged me with so much emotion.
Going back to work was a hard decision to make. I wanted so badly to be a stay at home mom and be there for every moment of my son’s life. But I also really missed my job. After taking a year off from teaching to be at home with my son, I was asked to come back to teach part time. Thus began the epic battle of emotions. I felt so guilty even toying with the idea of putting him in daycare. I told myself I was being selfish for wanting to go back to work and that if I wanted to be the best mom I could be for him, it meant making sacrifices. I thought about my boy crying and no one being there to make him feel better. I thought about him sleeping and waking up in a strange crib to a strange face. I thought about him accomplishing something and no one noticing or praising him for it like I would. All of these thoughts brought me to tears. People tried to make me feel better about it by saying things like, “It will be good for him to be away from you so he can get over his separation anxiety,” or “Being around other kids will help him become more sociable,” or “He will learn to be more independent.” I realized that there were positive aspects to both sides. After struggling with this for a few weeks, I decided to try it for a year and see how I felt and how he did.
I am lucky enough to have the daycare just a few doors down from my classroom, and every time I walked by that first day I would stop and watch him for a few minutes. He was playing. He was smiling. He was happily babbling and communicating. He looked like he was having fun. And I was having fun too. It was then that I realized that being away from him for a couple hours a day just made me love him even more. And as he threw his arms around me that first day, I knew that he loved me just as much as he did the day before – maybe even a little bit more.
This is a guest post written by Lauren Dzuris. To read more, you can visit the Find My Carseat Baby Blog. Also, be sure to share your experience with returning or not to returning to work after having a baby in our comments section! Whatever your decision, we’d love to hear your two cents.